Quoting the Quill #56

Quoting the Quill

Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.

– Unknown

I came across this quote the other day and was immediately struck by it, because it wasn’t a train of thought I had ever considered before. We are so obsessed with becoming something through our experiences, but I kind of like the idea presented here of unbecoming too. I think as we go through life we go through stages of likes and dislikes – perhaps for a while we’ll associate ourselves as Goths or cheerleaders or nerds, and then as we get older we become less centred on identifying ourselves with groups or stereotypes because we understand more about ourselves and who we’re going to be.
What do you guys think? Becoming or unbecoming? Let me know in the comments!

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14 thoughts on “Quoting the Quill #56

  1. Unbecoming. As in unattractive.
    Hmmm. I’ve never really identified myself with any group or clique…I am who I am, and who I am is who I am.

    Oh, heck, now I’m in Dr Seuss mode…. 🙂

    • I guess I mean that we go through phases of styles, like the clothes we wear, the music we like and our values that are all tied to trying to find our identity, and as we get older we strip ourselves of the things that aren’t us but keep bits and pieces from each phase and they eventually make up us. 🙂 You were clearly too cool to identify with a group, Tony, you rebel. 😉
      Dr Seuss rules!

  2. I agree … As we get older and maybe achieve a certain sense of “emotional equilibrium” , it gets easier for us to look back at our younger selves in a more detached and objective way.. Sort of gives you a better perspective and maybe even a laugh or two… thinking about how your priorities change and the definition of happiness evolves.

    • Emotional equilibrium – I love that phrase! It’s perfect. It is odd how as you get older you can look at yourself in a more detached way as you say, hindsight is a very useful thing indeed! Hopefully we can learn from it as well. 🙂
      I wonder where we will be 10 years from now!

  3. That is awesome. We “try on” so many things and ideas and ideals and discard the ones we don’t fit into. Life is testing and you don’t know until you try. I like it. It makes sense, and in a way, it gives you a break from explaining what you ARE. lol.

    • ‘Trying on’ is the perfect phrase! We try on personas and styles, whether to fit into a group or look like a celebrity etc., and then we work out all along that being ourselves is by far the best and most enjoyable. 🙂
      I’m glad you like the quote and I agree, explaining who you are all the time can be exhausting, hehee!

  4. I love this quote! It’s a lot about figuring out your identity through all the mess that society, your friends, your school, and your family think that you should be. And you have to pile it all on first before you can decide on what’s truly you.

    • Yay! I’m so glad. 🙂 That exactly it, you’ve put it so well. Society is always trying to push us into boxes, and as we get older we’re able to figure out where we fit, and normally, it’s not in a neat little box but somewhere between two or more! And yes, even friends and school have their ideas about who you are that aren’t necessarily right!

  5. This is so true! Connecting to yourself can be so hard these days because we try and fit in/build up an image of ourselves based on external factors. It’s such an important life lesson!

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